Rejection is eminent in this life. We face it all the time, or watch others face it. It hurts to be denied, let down, ignored etc. The word rejection itself scares me, and I imagine others too. Sometimes it’s not even that bad, people may be in a bad mood or nervous or can’t find the right words to say to you, but forgive them anyway. I’ve seen situations where people have so much anger towards each other, that it splits families, ends relationships and worst of all implants an inner blackness of the heart. Sometimes we may feel rejected from our friends and family because we don’t feel a certain way, don’t practice like that do, don’t have the same political stance, don’t have the career they always wanted for you, the list goes on. Whatever it may be, work to please the one who takes anything you give Him. Humans will reject you, deny you patience, love, mercy, and forgiveness. We are not made to forgive like Him, it is impossible. I’m not saying there not truly very forgiving people out there, but nothing like our Lord Allah (swt). When we walk to Him, He “runs” to us. We should race to Him, race to compete for His Mercy, ignoring what others may think of us. Rejection hurts but Id rather have His acceptance. Do what Allah (swt) expects of you, because what He expects of you, is what our parents try to teach us, over and over again…it all goes back to Him. So when you do good for them, you do it for Him too. Forgive others for their shortcomings, it’s hard but it’s worth a try. If you can’t forgive AND forget, then how do you expect Allah to do the same for you? Forgetting eliminates grudges, you can’t fully forgive someone without forgetting it or getting it off your mind.
And be good to people. I can promise you that the only things you will take with you to your death are your deeds and the only thing you’ll leave behind is your actions with people. Be good to them, pray for them because you will be prayed upon.
We find that some of the most non “religious” Muslims are the nicest, most genuine people out there. People still talk highly of them when they are gone, yet the “pious one” who rejected others advice or judgement, has no one to speak of him when he dies. What a loss that is! To this day I still visit the Muslim cemetery about an hour and half away from my city, the rows of graves have increased since my grandma and younger brother passed away (May Allah have mercy on them) and they made up the first row with a few others. Now I literally have to maze through graves to get to them. SubhanAllah. I see other names of people that I knew, people the who community knew, and still talk about highly. But sadly, there are people whom I’ve never heard of, never seen, and no one talks about them bad or good. Be a legend, leave a legacy for your people, community and ultimately your Ummah. There are other types of Sadaqa or charity in Islam, one of them is called Sadaqa Jaryeh which consists of three different types (that I can remember…forgive me!)
1) donating money to the poor
2) building a Masjid
3) teaching Islam and morals
The first two are givens, but the third is more amazing. If you teach Islam and it’s morals to children or anyone else, even if it’s a little, and if they practice whatever good YOU taught them, they you will also get the good deeds for it! SubhanAllah. Imagine, you donate money to the poor person, he eats and now has energy to pray and YOU get the reward too! Imagine you help build a masjid, and everyone who prays in it will help you get more reward! Imagine if you spend all your time teaching a child, or teaching your husband or friend, even after you pass away, all those deed they do you get the credit for! Imagine you wrote a beneficial book for your Ummah, whoever reads it….more reward! Continuous charity and reward even after you pass. Like having money in your bank account 24/7. I know we’d all approve of that. He is the best of givers, so take advantage of that and act!
Allah (swt) says in the Quran:
For every nation there is a direction to which they face. So hasten towards all that is good. (Quran 2:148)
Allah (swt) says hasten! Hasten to good. Even better than racing! Alhamdulilah.
Allah (swt) also says:
“And never give up hope of Allah’s Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah’s Mercy, except the people who disbelieve.” (Quran 12:87)
You believe in Him you’re almost there! Keep going!
He also says:
“It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you, and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.”
He knows best. Do what He says, because it is the Best of things. Forgive, forget, be good to people and you will be good to Him.
The photo above is me trying to make light hearted of a heavy hearted situation. Look at your tests in positive light.
If I have said something wrong forgive me, for all Good is from God.